A 28-day course and community starting March 31, 2025
Turn your divorce into the best thing that ever happened to you.
You'll apply proven psychological principles for self-connection and continual growth with the support of a strong community to change your fractured identity into a renewed sense of self.
BE BRAVE AND GET STARTEDWhen the Life You Knew Suddenly Changes
You didn't just lose a spouse – you lost half of a 'we' that defined your existence for years. The person who completed your sentences, anticipated your needs, and held your shared dreams. Friends extend their sympathy for your emotional pain, but few comprehend the disorienting reality of suddenly becoming a singular 'I' after years of plural identity.
Suddenly, you're facing a reality where:
The kitchen feels like foreign territory. Meals have become an afterthought – a rotation of takeout, frozen dinners, or whatever requires the least effort. The satisfaction of a proper home-cooked meal feels like a thing of the past.
Your home is no longer maintained the way it once was. Small repairs pile up. Organization systems break down. The environment that should provide comfort instead becomes a constant reminder of what's missing.
Your emotional well-being now rests entirely on your shoulders. The person who provided validation, connection, and purpose for decades is gone. The weight of finding meaning and satisfaction from within yourself feels overwhelming.
The Science of Sustainable Transformation
The 28-Day program integrates three powerful frameworks to create lasting change:
1. Self-Determination Theory: Building Intrinsic Motivation
Rather than pushing willpower or discipline, our approach cultivates the three psychological needs essential for genuine motivation:
- Autonomy: Each daily action reinforces your feeling of being the author of your own story
- Competence: Skills build progressively, creating confidence through consistent achievement
- Relatedness: Community connection is woven throughout, not treated as an afterthought
2. Internal Family Systems: Harmonizing Your Inner World
Divorce often activates protective parts of ourselves that resist change. Our program helps you:
- Identify the protective "parts" that emerged during your marriage
- Understand how these parts served you then, but may limit you now
- Access your natural Self-leadership to navigate this transition
3. Habit Stacking: Making Change Effortless
Small actions become powerful when strategically connected:
- Each new behavior anchors to existing routines, eliminating the need for willpower
- Skills interlock across domains (cooking, maintenance, emotional regulation)
- Progress compounds as individual habits form interconnected systems
Tools for Emotional Healing
The program provides everything you need to process grief and rebuild emotional resilience:
Daily Guided Reflections
Structured journaling prompts help you process complex emotions without becoming overwhelmed. These evidence-based exercises gradually shift you from rumination to insight, transforming painful experiences into sources of wisdom.
Emotional Regulation Toolkit
Learn practical techniques to manage emotional triggers that arise during this transition. These skills help you maintain equilibrium when memories or interactions with your ex-spouse threaten to derail your progress.
Healing Community
Connect with others who truly understand your experience in our moderated community space. Share challenges, celebrate victories, and receive validation that counteracts the isolation many feel after divorce.
Expert-Led Group Sessions
Weekly live sessions address common emotional challenges with research-backed approaches. These gatherings provide both structured learning and spontaneous support when you need it most.
Rebuild Your Identity
Discover who you are beyond your former relationship with tools designed for authentic self-rediscovery:
Personal Values Assessment
Rediscover your core values that may have been compromised or forgotten during your marriage. This foundational work ensures your new life aligns with what truly matters to you, not what was expected of you.
Strengths-Based Rebuilding
Identify and leverage your natural strengths to build confidence during this vulnerable time. Our assessment tools help you recognize capabilities you've always had but perhaps never fully acknowledged or utilized.
Future Self Visualization
Guided exercises help you envision and emotionally connect with your future self—the person you're becoming rather than the person you were in your marriage. This creates a powerful internal compass for decision-making.
Relationship Pattern Recognition
Learn to identify patterns from your past relationships that no longer serve you. This awareness prevents carrying old dynamics into new connections and helps you establish healthier boundaries.
The Journey: From Dependency to Integration
Week 1: Foundation Awareness
Develop consciousness of your current patterns while establishing small but meaningful victories that spark motivation.
Week 2: Parts Recognition & Skill Building
Identify inner "protectors" that emerged during marriage while developing practical competencies that reduce their activation.
Week 3: Self-Leadership & System Creation
Access your authentic Self to coordinate your internal system while establishing interlocking habits that support each other.
Week 4: Integration & Sustainable Autonomy
Harmonize your inner and outer worlds through habits that simultaneously meet practical needs and emotional well-being.
Beyond Programs: Sustainable Transformation
Unlike conventional "recovery" approaches, the 28-Day Rebuild doesn't just help you survive divorce—it uses this transition as a catalyst for profound personal evolution.
By integrating practical skills, emotional awareness, and social connection through evidence-based frameworks, you develop not just independence, but interdependence—the ability to connect authentically while maintaining self-reliance.
Because this isn't about replacing what was lost.
It's about building something fundamentally stronger, more integrated, and more authentically your own.
Your second chapter deserves more than adaptation. It deserves transformation.
About the Creator
System and community creator, Walter Budzian: Advocacy and Guidance for Self-Connection and Continual Growth
I've committed myself to applying behavioral science and translating rigorous psychological research into frameworks that help people reclaim authentic self-direction. Following five years of direct mentorship from the founders of Self-Determination Theory, I've developed a unique approach that has manifested in programs that consistently deliver measurable transformation:
motivationWorks
I co-created this evidence-based system now used by forward-thinking leaders to cultivate environments where employees naturally thrive. The methodology measures psychological need satisfaction and delivers tailored interventions that significantly elevate workplace autonomy and engagement—creating spaces where people rediscover their intrinsic drive and do the best work of their lives.
Good Spirit AI
I founded this transformative program specifically designed to guide divorced men through emotional liberation and conscious self-redefinition. The curriculum combines cutting-edge AI technology, psychological research and practical applications, helping participants release unhealthy attachments and build foundations for authentic, self-determined lives.
The unifying principle across these diverse ventures is my application of behavioral science to nurture sustainable self-connection. Rather than creating dependency on external guidance, my programs systematically develop participants' capacity for autonomous motivation and psychological need satisfaction—the cornerstones of volitional living and genuine life satisfaction.
My programs have helped tens of thousands of people create more fulfilling lives with their best self at the center. We can do this together for you as well.